What Would You Do?

i’m going to ask you to step into my shoes momentarily.

if you are friends with a couple, whose significant other has propositioned you (and other girls you know of, obviously sexually), and you are around these people frequently, would you be uncomfortable? the girl has no idea, and the guy acts as if it never happened, yet there is still this uncomfortable silence about all of it.. the awkward glances, laughs, etc.

what would you do?

personally, if i was the girl, i’d want to know so i could break it off and get it over with. but other factors (important factors, *cough* engagement ring *cough*) keep me from bringing it to her attention.

i’d like other people’s opinions.

11 Comments

  • As a guy, if you are really friends with her, tell her. She may not believe you or do anything about it, but at least you did what you were able to do.

  • Ed G says:

    i would tell her myself, as noted above, even if she doesn't believe you you mentioned it, so when shit hits the fan and she finds out she cant blame you for not saying anything

  • Kelleyroo says:

    If it were me, honestly, I would absolutely be uncomfortable. I've heard other's input of similar situations saying that you should "mind your own business" but I would so run my mouth and let her know what is going on. I know I would want someone to tell me if my SO was doing something ridiculous.

    The idea that it is not your business when you are clearly introduced to the situation is absurd, and really, I think you just need to do what you feel is right.

    ps – I haven't told you that I absolutely adore your current theme… and I hope your teeth don't hurt anymore!

  • Christine says:

    It's better she knows now then have her get married to a man who could possibly cheat on her.

  • mistical says:

    I think it would be better for you to tell her now. If the guy is like this, he probably will always be like this especially if he has already tried to do this while engaged to her. They should know.

  • kelleyroo says:

    P.S.S – I'd like to see that ice cream cone turn his frown upside-down.

  • Colin says:

    I would tell her- she needs to know about it, since it is clearly a repeating pattern and will cause more problems after the marriage (unless he is loaded in which case she can take him to the cleaners in a divorce settlement).

  • Jordan says:

    As long as you personally had to endure the awkward approach(es) from him, I think you should at least tell her what happened. I know I'd want to know as much as I didn't want to know. I can understand if you heard about it or thought you 'saw' something happen, but you were actually the one IN the situation.

    I know she probably won't take it lightly and might even accuse YOU of being a guilty one but it doesn't hurt to let her know what has happened… Then let her make her own decisions, engagement involved or not.

    Good luck with it though :)

  • Caity says:

    I would want to know. Even if your friend seemed angry at you, she's really just angry at the situation and will come around eventually when she realizes that you were just trying to protect her best interests. That is a really hard situation and I wish you the best of luck.

  • Tina says:

    You should tell her, especially if they are engaged. Relationships are supposed to have trust from each other, and there are problems. Also it could just get worse after the marriage. That's a major bummer having to do that though. I know I would feel uncomfortable telling that to someone :(

  • ab_as_kl says:

    Tell her. If she gets angry at you, let her vent. She'll find out the truth at some point, and sooner is better than later. Also, it'll bring to a head the point of whether you really want to continue socializing with the pair or just with her.

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